| How to Enjoy High School Posted: 19 Sep 2018 01:00 AM PDT The four years of high school can produce some of the most memorable moments of your life. To get the most out of your high school experience, it's important to focus on your academics while also spending time exploring your passions and friendships. Be yourself as you navigate high school, and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. EditDiscovering and Being Yourself - Open yourself up to new experiences. High school is a great time to branch out and try new things. Try to get out of your comfort zone a little bit and try out for a sports team, join the choir, or even just sit with new people at lunch. This will help you discover new passions and maybe even make new friends.[1]
- You could have a goal of trying one new thing a day, whether it's big or small.
- Small things might include attending a friend's play performance or checking out books from the library, while bigger things could be asking someone to a dance or running for student body president.
- Take pride in your appearance. Try to let your personality shine through your clothing and general style. Pick out clothes you feel confident in, and spend a little time each morning for some personal grooming to make yourself look and feel your best.[2]
- Choose a hairstyle that you really like, such as long layers, straightened locks, curls, or spikes.
- Take some time each morning to brush your hair and teeth, shower if necessary, and ensure your clothes are wrinkle-free.
- Whether you have a uniform or not, you can customize your outfit by adding jewelry, hair accessories, and shoes that you love.
- Be confident in your decisions and avoid peer pressure. Don't let anyone pressure you into activities you are not comfortable with, including sex, drugs, or alcohol. Reflect on what you want and are comfortable with, and stand your ground—others will respect you for your confidence.[3]
- Avoid peer pressuring others as well, making sure you respect other people's boundaries.
- If someone is pressuring you, say no firmly and repeatedly if necessary. Leave the situation if they do not respect your feelings.
- Talk to an adult who can provide support if you're struggling with peer pressure.
- Ask for help if you're struggling academically, socially, or emotionally. Your parents, teachers, coaches, and guidance counselors are all excellent resources for you and are there to help. If you're worried about a bad grade, are in a fight with a friend, or are feeling a bit down, reach out to an adult in your life that you trust.[4]
- Your teachers always want to know when you're struggling in a subject, and they'll do their best to help you succeed.
- If you have a problem, whether it's academic or personal, your guidance counselor will be able to point you in the direction of help.
- Stay true to who you are. High school is a time of working to become the best possible person you can be while also exploring your interests. Instead of trying to be popular or joining a team or group just because others are, focus on what you enjoy doing and pursue these things instead.[5]
- If you're not sure which things you're truly interested in yet, keep trying new things until you find something that you really love.
EditGetting Involved and Making Friends - Get to know the people in your classes. These are the people you'll see and interact with every day, so becoming friends with a few of them will give you a great support network throughout the school year. If you don't know them, introduce yourself and strike up a casual conversation, and if you do already know them, ask them a question about their hobbies or family so that you can get to know them a little better.
- For example, introduce yourself to a potential new friend by saying, "Hi, I'm Sam. I really like your shirt, where did you get it?"
- Ask someone in one of your classes if they'd like to get together to study, or if they can help you with a homework question.
- You can even ask to exchange contact information so that if either of you have questions about homework, tests, or projects in the class, you can reach out to one another.
- Become involved in extracurricular activities or clubs. High school is a great place to find people and clubs that share your interests. Sign up to be in the drama club, on the school newspaper, part of the art club—any club or activity that catches your attention and you think you'd enjoy.[6]
- Other extracurricular activities might include yoga, coding, or chess club.
- If your high school does not have a club that caters to your interests or passions, start one of your own!
- If you apply to college, include your activities on your application. This helps give admissions committees a better idea about who you are as a person.
- Try out a sport to be part of a team. Sports are a good way to get active while also being part of a close-knit team. Choose a sport you like, such as soccer, softball, basketball, or swimming, and work hard during practice and at games to make your team (and yourself!) proud.[7]
- Track and field has many different types of events, each designed to showcase a different talent or skill set.
- Try out dance team, cheer leading, or volleyball.
- Reach out to people and make new friends. Whether you're a freshman or a senior, you can always meet new people and form new relationships. Strike up a conversation with someone in the hall, sit with someone new at lunch, or offer to partner up with someone you're not friends with for a class project. You might leave with a new friend![8]
- If you don't feel comfortable talking to a complete stranger, say hello to the person whose locker is next to yours, or compliment someone's outfit in the lunch room.
- Attend school events to broaden your experiences. Events such as school dances, sports games, and pep rallies are all an essential part of the high school experience. Even if you aren't full of school spirit, try to go to at least one school event each season—you'll likely end up making great memories.
- Invite a friend or two to come along with you.
- Ask your friend to introduce you to people you may not already know.
EditSucceeding in School - Focus on your work to get good grades. Your school work should be your first priority all throughout high school, as this is the real reason you're there. Study hard for tests and quizzes, focus during class, and do your homework so that you can get grades that you're proud of.[9]
- If you need help in a class, reach out to the teacher so that they can offer you assistance.
- Ask a friend to help you study if you need a little extra practice in a subject.
- Complete your homework each night so that you're ready for class the next day.
- Take good notes during class. Your notes will help you with your homework and studying for quizzes, and taking notes will also help the information absorb into your brain. You can create an outline of the main points of the lecture, print out the slides and take notes directly on them, or any other method of note taking that works for you.[10]
- If laptops are allowed in class, you can also take notes quickly and efficiently by typing.
- Build a support network of teachers, coaches, and guidance counselors. There's no reason to be ashamed of asking for help at times, and the adults in your life are always willing to assist you. Get to know your teachers, coaches, and guidance counselors so that you feel comfortable coming to them when you need them.[11]
- For example, drop in once a week to chat with your guidance counselor about what's going on in your life, or stay after class for a minute or two to talk to your teacher about the class they just taught.
- Maintain a healthy balance between your academics and social life. While it's important to get good grades, don't stress yourself out by aiming for constant perfection. Give yourself some down time in between working hard in school by hanging out with friends or doing extracurricular activities.[12]
- Remember that getting a bad grade once in a while is normal, and try not to be too hard on yourself.
- Your social life shouldn't outweigh your academic life in order to keep your grades up.
- Stay organized to use your time productively. It's helpful to keep a calendar or planner with you so that you can easily write down due dates, test dates, and when sports games or extracurriculars are. By always knowing what you have coming up in the future, you'll be able to plan ahead and prioritize the most important tasks.
- Get a study group together a few days before a test so that you all have plenty of time to review the material.
EditPrioritizing Your Mental and Physical Health - Eliminate distractions to help you focus. Whether you're trying to do homework, study, or just have some down time, distractions such as your phone or social media aren't helpful. Try to keep your phone turned off or in a separate area when you're focusing on school.[13]
- Constantly checking social media tends to increase your anxiety, so try to only set aside a small amount of time for it each day.
- Try to finish your homework and studying before responding to texts, phone calls, or emails.
- Exercise to help you de-stress and relax. Not only is exercising great for you physically, it also helps your mind decompress. Play a sport after school, visit the gym, or just go on walks for some fresh air each day.[14]
- Exercising outdoors is even better—the fresh air and sunlight will make you feel invigorated and healthier.
- Go for a run after school or ask a friend to play soccer or basketball with you.
- Sleep for at least 8 hours each night. If you're going to bed super late and have to wake up early to go to school, you're not going to do well in class because of how tired you are. Plan ahead so that you get 8-10 hours of sleep each night and are energized for the next day.[15]
- For example, if you have to wake up at 7am to go to school, aim to go to bed at 11pm at the latest.
- Eat breakfast before heading to school. Even if you don't have a lot of time in the mornings, try to grab some food to go before leaving. Eating breakfast will give your body and mind needed energy to focus throughout the day.[16]
- Grab a granola bar and piece of fruit if you're in a hurry.
- Eat scrambled eggs with spinach in them if you have time to sit down and eat.
- Take a step back if you're feeling overwhelmed. With all of the schoolwork, extracurricular activities, social expectations, and family commitments, high school can be a bit overwhelming sometimes. If you find yourself feeling stressed or unsure how to handle everything, stop pushing yourself so hard and talk to an adult who can help.[17]
- You may need to cut back on some of your commitments if you're feeling overwhelmed; for example, if you're on the swim team, write for the school newspaper, and babysit every day after school, consider babysitting only 1 or 2 days after school instead.
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| How to Respond to Ghosting Posted: 18 Sep 2018 05:00 PM PDT Whether your romantic interest or friend is ignoring you, being ghosted always hurts. Don't beat yourself up if your calls and texts start going unanswered. Try to stay calm, and avoid pleading for an explanation or sending angry messages. If an online dating match or casual acquaintance blew you off, don't sweat the small stuff. If someone closer intentionally ignores you, it can really hurt. Give yourself time to grieve. EditDiscovering You've Been Ghosted - Stay calm. It's hard to keep your cool when your texts and phone calls suddenly go unanswered. However, you should take a deep breath and relax before launching a tirade of frantic texts or sending a 10-paragraph angry email.[1]
- Not knowing why they won't respond is maddening, but it's better to cool off before saying something you'll regret or jumping to conclusions.
- Address the issue if you have an existing relationship. If you feel the need to initiate contact, stay rational. Send them a message or voicemail and say, "I haven't heard from you lately, and I hope I didn't do anything to offend you. If you want to try to resolve any issues, I'd be happy to talk. Otherwise, I wish you all the best."[2]
- Many people find ghosting acceptable in some circumstances. For example, if a match on a dating app starts ignoring your messages, your best bet is to brush it off and forget about it.
- Confirm that the person is intentionally ghosting you. If you just met the person or went on 1 or 2 casual dates, checking up on them probably isn't worth your time. However, if you've been friends or romantically involved for months or years, they might just have a lot on their plate. Before jumping to conclusions, see if they've simply been busy, and make sure that they're in good physical and mental health.[3]
- You could check their social media profile and see if they're posting pictures or statuses. Keep in mind you shouldn't obsess over their posts for hours. Just do a quick check.
- If you both have a mutual friend, you could ask them if the person who's ignoring you is okay.
- If you think the person might be depressed or going through an emotional struggle, you could write them a message and say, "I haven't heard from you in a while, and I hope you're okay. I know you're going through a tough time, and I'm here for you."
- Accept the truth instead of getting trapped in denial. If it's clear that the person is intentionally ignoring you, it might be best to cut your losses. If they post fun pictures on social media and your mutual friends say that they're doing well, the ball's in their court. There's not much more you can do beyond telling them you're willing to discuss any issues and wishing them well.[4]
- As much as it hurts, do your best to stop making excuses for them or holding out hope that they'll eventually respond.
- If they do try to contact you in the future, use your best judgment. If they apologize and explain that they had a lot going on, they might not have had bad intentions.
EditMoving Past the Pain - Give yourself permission to grieve. Whether a friend or romantic interest cut ties with you, it's tough to get over being ghosted. You have a right to be upset, so don't try to hide your grief. Allow yourself to cry, listen to sad music, or spend a day wallowing on the sofa.[5]
- Even if you just went on 1 date, it's still okay to grieve. Getting rejected is tough under any circumstances, and bottling up your feelings won't do you any good.
- Try not to take it personally. Most romantic relationships come to an end at some point, and sometimes people just aren't suited to each other. Instead of thinking, "There's something wrong with me," remind yourself that, sometimes, people are just incompatible. Don't beat yourself up just because it didn't work out with someone.[6]
- Focus on the fact that you dodged a bullet. It's better to be ghosted after 1 or 2 dates than to waste weeks or months with someone that's not right for you. If a long-term friend or partner starts intentionally ignoring you for no reason, it might be a good thing that they're out of your life.[7]
- Vent to a friend or family member. Talking to a trusted loved one can help you blow off steam and sort out your feelings. A close friend or relative can lift your spirits, and spending time with them can help take your mind off things.[8]
- Call a loved one and say, "All of a sudden, Sam isn't returning my calls or texts. I thought it was going well, but I've definitely been ghosted. Can we meet up for a coffee? I'm pretty bummed, and I could use a friend right now."
- Maintain your mental and physical health. Eating well, getting enough sleep, and exercising can all help you push through your grief. Additionally, setting aside time to do activities you most enjoy can help boost your self-confidence.[9]
- Avoid skipping meals or loading up on sweets. Eat nutritious foods, such as fruits and veggies, healthy proteins (such as poultry or fish), whole grains, and low-fat dairy products.
- Do your best to get 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night.
- Exercise for at least 30 minutes each day. Outdoor exercise can be especially helpful, so go for brisk walks, jogs, or bike rides.
- Go on dates and meet new people. Don't let this experience get in the way of forming relationships in the future. Dating might seem daunting, and you might be afraid of being ghosted again. Take a deep breath, face your fears, and allow yourself to be vulnerable.[10]
- Try taking a class or joining a club related to one of your interests. You could join a gardening club, sign up for an informal sports league, or take a cooking class.
- Remind yourself that life is full of both joy and pain. You'll face obstacles in the future, but refusing to put yourself out there is no way to live.
EditLearning from the Experience - Look for ways to grow, but don't blame yourself. Don't kick yourself while you're down, but think about how you can learn from being ghosted. There's no way to guarantee that you won't find yourself in a similar situation, but you might find ways to be more selective of friends or dates in the future.[11]
- Remember to stay positive instead of finding ways to blame yourself. Practice constructive self-criticism, such as, "I put more effort into making plans than they did, and should avoid similar situations in the future."
- Ask yourself if there were any red flags that you ignored. Think about your interactions with the person, and try to remember any signs that they weren't that into the relationship. Did you get into a fight, or did they seem to gradually lose interest in talking? Were you always the one who called or asked to make plans?[12]
- Again, don't get down on yourself as you think about warning signs that went unnoticed. The point is to identify red flags to look for in future relationships.
- View rejection as a blessing in disguise. It never feels good to be rejected, but try to see the bigger picture. Experiencing heartbreak can help you cope with grief in the future. As much as it hurts now, you'll feel better soon.[13]
- The next time you're in a tough situation, think back to this, and remind yourself that things will get better.
- Remember your grief when you break up with people in the future. Having been ghosted yourself, you'll know that it's not the best way to end a relationship. When you have to break up with someone or end a friendship, try to be kind, but get straight to the point.[14]
- For example, you might say, "I've enjoyed the time we've had together, and this is tough for me to say. I don't think it's going to work out in the long run. I hope you understand, and I wish you all the best."
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| How to Wash Hair with Rice Water Posted: 18 Sep 2018 09:00 AM PDT Washing your hair with rice water is a cheap, easy, and effective way to improve the look and health of your hair. Rice water contains a particular carbohydrate that reportedly minimizes follicle damage and increases the shine, strength, and length of your hair. [1] You can use rice water as a weekly hair treatment, or rinse with it every time you shampoo. Whether you purchase rice water from the store or make it yourself at home, it is simple to incorporate it into your hair-washing routine! EditMaking Your Own Rice Water by Soaking - Purchase some rice. While any type of rice will work, the most frequently used are white rice or long-grain brown rice. Whatever you have in the house is fine!
- Measure out ½ cup of rice and rinse it to remove any dust or impurities.[2]
- Combine the rice with 2-3 cups of water in a bowl. Set the bowl aside on the counter and wait!
- Soak the rice in the water for about 15-30 minutes. Let your rice soak until the water takes on a milky, semi-opaque appearance. That milky appearance indicates that some of the rice's inositol has been released into the water.[3]
- Inositol is a carbohydrate that gives rice water its milky appearance. When used on your hair, some research suggests that inositol helps protect your locks and add shine.
- Stir the rice water a couple of times while it soaks. Use a spoon or fork to break up any clumps of rice.
- Once the water has a cloudy or milky look to it, it should be good to go.
- Strain out the rice and set the water aside. Double check to make sure that the water does not have any lingering rice in it.[4]
- Another way to do this is to boil the rice/water mixture. Just follow the same steps as soaking, but use slightly more water and strain out the rice once the water starts to boil. Allow it to cool to room temperature before using.[5]
- Transfer the rice water into a decorative or practical container. It is now ready to use!
EditWashing Your Hair with Rice Water - Shampoo your hair as usual. Be sure to rinse completely with warm water. You may follow with your normal conditioning routine, or apply the rice water directly after shampooing. Try each method to see what works best for you.
- If you don't usually wash your hair every day or have dry hair to begin with, you may want to skip the shampoo and proceed directly to the rice water.[6]
- Soak your hair with rice water after rinsing. Use a cup or a squeeze bottle to apply the rice water to your scalp. Then, thoroughly work it into your scalp and down the length of your strands.
- You do not necessarily need to be in the bath or shower to apply the rice water. In fact, many people soak their hair over a basin or sink. It's up to you!
- Leave the rice water in your hair for 20-30 minutes. This allows the inositol in the rice water to fully coat each strand. After you rinse out the rice water, your hair will have a thin layer of inositol coating each strand, helping protect it from damage and breakage.[7]
- Rinse out all of the rice water using cold water. Gently comb or brush your hair to remove any tangles or knots. Now you are ready to style your hair for the day! [8]
- Incorporate rice water into your regular haircare routine. Washing with rice water can be used as part of a daily routine, every other day, or once a week. It really depends on your personal preference and the kind of results you hope to achieve. [9]
- Many people find that washing with rice water every day can be a bit time-consuming and choose to use it less frequently and still get great results. Find the right routine that works for you! [10]
EditMaking Your Own Rice Water by Fermenting - Gather up your ingredients. You will need 1/2 cup of rice, 2-3 cups of water, and a bowl to place them in.[11]
- Don't forget to rinse the rice well before using!
- Mix the rice and water together in the bowl. Stir the mixture to make sure none of the rice is sticking together.[12]
- Soak the rice in the water for 15-30 minutes. The water should look murky or cloudy when it is ready to ferment. Strain the rice out and set the water aside.[13]
- Place the soaked rice water in a container. Set it aside and keep it at room temperature for 24-48 hours to allow it to ferment.
- Fermentation is said to strengthen the effects of rice water and help restore pH balance to dry or brittle hair.[14]
- A good way to know when the fermentation is complete is that the rice water will start to smell sour.
- Bottle the rice water in your favorite container. After the fermentation process is complete, transfer the rice water to a Tupperware or mason jar. A squeeze bottle also works very well and comes in handy when applying it to your hair later!
- Any rice water that you do not use right away can be stored in the fridge for about seven days.
- Adding a few drops of lavender or other essential oils is a great way to make the rice water smell pleasant![15]
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