| How to Treat Someone Who Betrayed You Posted: 10 Nov 2021 12:00 AM PST When someone betrays you it can feel shocking or even sickening. After all, you thought you knew the person and they destroyed your trust. You probably have no idea how to proceed or whether or not to rebuild your relationship. While there are no easy solutions, we've got suggestions for how to move on and interact with the person in the future. [Edit]Take time to sort through your feelings. - You may feel a lot of conflicting emotions. Instead of immediately reacting and confronting the person, you may feel better if you get some personal space. Write down your feelings or call a trusted friend and talk with them about what happened. Working through your own emotions is a good guide for how you'll interact with the person who betrayed you.
- For instance, if a close family member went back on their word about an agreement you had, you might feel intensely angry. Give yourself time to calm down and come up with a plan for approaching them about your arrangement.[1]
[Edit]Listen to what the person has to say. - Give them the opportunity to explain themselves. This is really important if you want to mend the relationship and move on. Maybe the betrayal was actually a miscommunication and you can clear things up, or perhaps listening to their explanation can help you decide whether or not you want to repair the relationship.[2]
- For instance, if you're feeling hurt because you feel like a friend has disappeared—not taking your calls, ignoring your texts, etc—and you learn they're dealing with depression, you'll realize they weren't betraying your friendship.
- You may listen to a co-worker explain why they talked about you behind your back and realize that the person feels totally justified and doesn't realize what they did was wrong. You may decide to be more cautious around them in the future.
[Edit]Put yourself in their shoes. - Imagine the situation from the other person's perspective. You're not trying to excuse what they did but to understand it so you can move on. For instance, if your partner cheated on you, you'll obviously be upset and hurt. Upon reflection, you might realize that they did it because you were emotionally unavailable. Seeing this from their perspective helps you understand the betrayal.[3]
- Viewing the betrayal from their perspective can remind you that they're human. You may feel more forgiving toward them or, at the very least, understand why they did what they did.
[Edit]Express your concern so they know you feel hurt. - Share how you feel, especially if they don't think they've betrayed you. This can be tough to do—you probably feel vulnerable—but it's important. Tell them exactly how their actions made you feel. Talking about it can make you feel better and it lets the person know that what they did was harmful.[4]
- If you and your partner are dealing with the issue of betrayal, you might find that you talk about it all the time. Instead of letting it sneak into every conversation, plan a specific time to discuss it.
[Edit]Try to keep your cool. - Focus on staying calm so you communicate effectively. If you're trying to rebuild a relationship with a partner, friend, or colleague, lashing out will make it much harder. They may start to resent you or feel like you no longer want to be friends.[5]
- It's really easy to lash out in anger, but remind yourself that it won't necessarily make you feel better or repair the relationship.
[Edit]Express what you want going forward. - Tell them what you'd like them to do so you can both move on. It's completely natural to want an apology if they betrayed you, but you might need to make this clear to them. Maybe you'd rather that they just see your perspective and realize they've hurt you. You may also explain that you won't tolerate betrayal in the future.[6]
- Being really clear with what you want also lets the other person make a choice. They can either respect your wishes and boundaries or disagree and possibly end the relationship.
[Edit]Forgive the person if you want to rebuild the relationship. - You can tell the person or just acknowledge it to yourself. Forgiveness is really something you do yourself. It means you've come to terms with what happened and how you feel and you're ready to move forward. This means letting go of your hurt feelings. Give the person opportunities to prove that you can trust them again.[7]
- You might say to the person, "You know, it really hurt when you told my friends those secrets. I'm still really unhappy that you did that, but I want to stay friends if I know I can trust you."
[Edit]Build trust if you want to reconnect with the person. - Give them a chance to prove that you can stay friends or partners. Rebuilding trust doesn't happen overnight—it's more of a mindset that you cultivate. Continue to be open and honest with the person about your feelings. Sure, you both won't always be comfortable around each other, but let them know you're making the effort.[8]
- It's okay to tell the person that you're still struggling with trusting them, especially if it's a partner who betrayed you. Acknowledge these challenging feelings so they can try to support you.
[Edit]Try to make new positive experiences. - Betrayal hurts because someone you care about hurt you. If you're trying to move on with your relationship, set aside your painful feelings and work on making positive ones. You don't have to pretend as though nothing bad happened, but you should make a conscious effort to enjoy yourself around them.[9]
- If you're rebuilding trust with a partner, do something fun together. Go out for drinks, challenge each other at the arcade, paint pottery together—anything that gives you a mental break and a pleasant experience.
[Edit]Break off contact if you don't want a relationship. - Let the relationship go if you can't trust them at all. This isn't a decision to make lightly, but if you realize that the person doesn't care about your feelings or the fact that they hurt you, it may be time to develop other relationships.[10]
- You don't have to have a dramatic confrontation with them. You can be polite and still keep them at arms' length. This might be the best option for interacting with a co-worker who's betrayed you.
[Edit]Work with a therapist to address trauma. - A licensed counselor can help you move past debilitating trust issues. Unfortunately, betrayal can cause deep psychological trauma that can actually cause physical problems like headaches, nausea, insomnia, or muscle tension. If you feel like the betrayal and your interactions with the person are making it hard to function, don't hesitate to reach out for professional mental health services.[11]
- Your therapist may use cognitive behavioral therapy. This type of talk therapy helps you challenge your negative thinking to see things in a more positive light. This can help if you struggle to interact with the person who betrayed you.
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| How to Become a Foster Care Social Worker Posted: 09 Nov 2021 04:00 PM PST If you love to help other people, you've probably thought about becoming a social worker before. Working specifically with children in foster care is very rewarding, and using your social work degree to assist children in their time of need is a great way to make a living. In this article, we've detailed all the steps you'll need to take to become a social worker and work with children in foster care. [Edit]Education - Get your bachelor's degree in social work, psychology, or sociology. Typically, most social workers get their 4-year degree in social work. However, you can also get a degree in sociology or psychology and still become a social worker. Bachelor's degrees usually take around 4 years (or a little more) to complete.[1]
- Take classes specific to foster care social work. This is especially important if you're getting a sociology or psychology degree. Once you've done all of your pre-requisite classes, try to take a couple that are specific to foster care and foster care social work. These will teach you the skills you need to work closely with children in foster care, and they'll also teach you more about the job and what it entails.[2]
- You'll probably take classes on foster care and adoption, clinical social work, and community work.
- Get a master's degree to work directly with foster children. Most jobs in the foster care system require you to have a master's degree in social work before you can apply. You can apply to a master's degree program and usually complete it in less than 2 years. You'll also need a master's degree in social work if you plan to work in a clinical setting, like at a counselor or therapist's office.[3]
- There are some jobs, like Behavioral Aids, Case Management Aids, and Rehabilitation Case Workers that you can do with a bachelor's degree in social work. However, you might not be working directly with foster children.[4]
[Edit]Licensing - Check with your state to find out the licensing requirements. Just like education requirements, licensing and certification requirements can vary by state. All U.S. and Canadian territories require social workers to get a license, but a few have stricter requirements. It's worth checking out your specific state's requirements before starting the licensing process, just to be sure.[5]
- Get your LMSW during grad school. Licensed Master Social Workers can do clinical work, like therapy, even if they don't have their full master's degree yet. Usually, you'd get this license if you're still in grad school but you'd like to do an internship in the field.[6] Earning this license is different for every state, but you must have your master's degree in social work or be working toward it to qualify.
- Most people get their LMSW as a stepping-stone to getting the licensed clinical social worker license (LCSW). If you choose to get this license, it means you'll probably be doing mostly clinical work, like therapy and counseling.
- Complete the ASWB license application and pay a fee. Once you have a bachelor's degree or master's degree, you can submit an application to the Association of Social Work Boards to take a licensing exam. If you just graduated college, the exam costs $230; if you're taking the advanced generalist or clinical exam, it costs $260. Once you submit your application, you can sign up for a time slot to complete your exam at a testing center.[7]
- When you go to the exam, you'll need to arrive 30 minutes early with 2 forms of ID. Once you're there, you'll get your picture taken and your palm scanned by a staff member.
- Pass the Association of Social Work Boards exam. The exam contains 170 multiple choice questions, and it usually takes a couple of hours to complete. You'll be asked questions related to social work to test your competence and make sure you have enough education to join the workforce. Once you pass the exam, you'll be granted your social work license.[8]
[Edit]Finding a Job - Apply to a government organization to work directly with foster children. Social workers who want to work closely with foster children often apply to local, state, or federal government organizations. Facilities like these will assign social workers a certain amount of cases, and you will be tasked with checking up on children in foster care, facilitating visitation, and advocating for them in court if need-be.[9]
- The average salary for a governmental foster care worker is $47,390.
- Try a nonprofit organization for a smaller work environment. If you don't want to work for the government, you can apply to a nonprofit organization to assist children in foster care and advocate for them. In a nonprofit setting, you will probably be matched with fewer cases, and you'll have more time to dedicate to each child in foster care that you're assigned to.[10]
- Positions like these usually require a master's degree since you'll be working directly with foster children.
- Salaries for nonprofit employees vary, but they're usually less than what you'd make at a government organization.
- Apply to an adoption agency to facilitate home placements. If you'd like to help children in foster care find their forever home, you can work at an adoption agency to facilitate home visits and help match parents and children. You will most likely work with potential adoptive families and foster children one-on-one to find the right fit for everyone. You can apply to governmental adoption agencies or private ones, depending on your preference.[11]
- Private adoption agencies usually don't have quite the caseload that governmental ones do. If you'd prefer to only work with a few families at a time, a private practice is probably the way to go.
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| How to Transfer Microsoft Office to Another Computer Posted: 09 Nov 2021 08:00 AM PST This wikiHow teaches you how to install Microsoft Office on a different computer than the one you've been using. If you have a subscription to Microsoft 365 (formerly known as Office 365), you can use Office apps on up to 5 devices at once, which means you won't need to deactivate your other installations. But if you have a non-subscription version of Office 2019 or Office 2016, , you'll need to install or activate Office on the new computer (usually by telephone), and then deactivate it on the old computer. [Edit]Moving Office 2019 or 2016 to a New PC (Non-Subscription) - Visit https://www.office.com on the new computer. You can use any web browser, such as Edge, Safari, Firefox, or Chrome, to view the Office website.
- Use this method if you do not have a Microsoft 365 subscription and want to transfer already-activated copy of Office Home & Business, Office Home & Student, or Office Professional to a new Windows PC.
- Since your license allows you to have Office installed on one computer at a time, you'll first install Office on the new computer, activate by phone, and then remove the applications from your old computer.[1]
- Sign in to your Microsoft account. Use the account information you use to sign in to Microsoft products, such as Outlook.com, Live.com, or Hotmail.com. If you use Office through your work or school, you may need to use your work or school account to sign in.
- Click . It's near the top-right corner of the page. This downloads the installer to your computer, although you may have to select the option to Save File to start the process.
- Click . It's near the top-right corner of the page. This downloads the installer to your computer, although you may have to select the option to Save File to start the process.
- Click or . The option you see varies depending on the version you're installing.
- Double-click the Office installer to run it. The installer's name begins with "setup" and ends with .exe and is saved to your default Downloads folder.
- Click to start the installation. This option appears on the User Account Control window. Office will install.
- Click to finish the installation. Office is now installed.
- Open any Office app. This could be Word, Excel, PowerPoint, or any other product. You'll find your Office apps in the Start menu.
- Select and press . You will see this on the activation wizard window.
- Call the product activation phone number for your region. Select your country from the drop-down menu to display the phone number, and then dial the number on your phone.
- Provide the installation ID on the phone when asked. This is the number next to "Installation ID" on the activation wizard. Once you say or enter the number, you will hear a confirmation ID.
- Enter the confirmation ID and click . This is the number the recording or agent reads to you after providing your installation ID. Once you do this, Office will be active on the new PC.
- Uninstall Office on the old PC. To do this:
- Press the Windows Key + S key at the same time to open the Search bar.
- Type and click Add or remove programs in the search results.
- Scroll down the right panel and click Microsoft Office (version).
- Click Uninstall and follow the on-screen instructions.
[Edit]Moving Office 2019 or 2016 to a New Mac (Non-Subscription) - Install the latest macOS updates on both computers. This ensures a smooth transfer between the two Macs. On both Macs, click the Apple menu at the top-left corner of the screen, select System Preferences, click Software Update, and then select Software Update if it's available.[2]
- Use this method if you do not have a Microsoft 365 subscription, but instead have a license for Office 2019 or 2016. If you have a subscription for Microsoft 365, see Using a Microsoft 365 Subscription on a PC or Mac.
- As of the release of Office 2016, your product key is tied to your Microsoft account. Because of this, you won't need it to reinstall Office on another computer.
- Make sure the old Mac has a computer name set. The computer on which Office is already installed must have a "computer name" set to use the Migration Assistant. Here's how to check:
- Click the Apple menu and select System Preferences.
- Click Sharing.
- If the "Computer Name" field is blank, enter a name now. It can be anything you want, such as "My Old Mac."
- Connect the Macs to each other. If both Macs are running the latest version of macOS (or even just High Sierra or later), just place them close together and enable Wi-Fi on each.[3] If either Mac is running El Capitan or earlier, connect both computers to the same Wi-Fi or Ethernet network.
- If you've backed up your Microsoft Office installation to another drive using Time Machine, you can just connect the Time Machine drive directly to the new Mac instead.
- Open Migration Assistant on the new Mac. To do this:
- Click the Finder icon (the two-toned face on the Dock).
- Double-click the Applications folder.
- Double-click the Utilities folder.
- Double-click Migration Assistant.
- Click Continue.
- Select "From a Mac, Time Machine backup, or Startup disk" and click . It's the first option in the list.
- Click . Now you'll perform the next step on the Mac that already has Microsoft Office installed.
- If you're using a Time Machine backup, skip to Step 10.
- Open Migration Assistant on your old Mac. This is the Mac that already has Office installed. You'll find it in the Applications folder under Utilities.
- Click .
- Select "To another Mac" and click . Now you'll switch back to the new Mac.
- Select your old Mac or Time Machine backup drive and click . Depending on how you're transferring files, you may have to complete one of these steps:
- If you see a security code appear, verify that the same code appears on the old Mac, and then click Continue.
- If you are asked to select a backup to transfer information from, select the latest backup, and then click Continue.
- Select the information you want to transfer to your new Mac. Since Microsoft Office is a set of applications, check the box next to "Applications." You may also want to copy other information, such as your user account, your settings, and/or other files and folders.
- Click . This begins the process of copying Microsoft Office and other applications to your new Mac. Once the migration is complete, you'll find Microsoft Office in your Applications folder.
- If you get an activation error when opening Office on your new Mac, click I want to activate the software by telephone on the Activation Wizard, select Next, and then follow the on-screen instructions. Once Office is activated, uninstall it from your old Mac.[4]
- Open any Office app on your new Mac. This can be any Office app, such as Word or Excel. You'll find your Office apps on the Launchpad.
- Activate via telephone if you get an activation error. Since you migrated Office from your old Mac, you should be able to use Office without any trouble. If you get an error about activation, you'll need to perform these steps to activate over the telephone:
- On the Activation Wizard, select I want to activate the software by telephone and click Next.
- Select your region to view the Product Activation Center phone number for your area.
- Call the number and provide the "Installation ID" you see under "Step 2."
- Type the confirmation ID provided by the phone service into the blank under "Step 3."
- Click Next and follow the on-screen instructions to activate.
- Remove Office from your old Mac. Now that Office is activated on the new Mac, it'll no longer work on the old one.[5] To uninstall Office on the old Mac:
- Click the Finder icon (the two-toned smiley face) on the Dock.
- Double-click the Applications folder.
- Hold down the Command key as you click each Office app.[6] Make sure you select all of the Office apps, which all begin with the word "Microsoft."
- Hold down the Control button as you click any of the selected apps. A menu will expand.
- Click Move to Trash to uninstall OfficeYou can then empty the trash to free up hard drive space.
[Edit]Using a Microsoft 365 Subscription - Visit https://www.office.com on the new computer. You can use any web browser, such as Edge, Safari, Firefox, or Chrome, to view the Office website.
- Use this method if you have a subscription to Microsoft 365 and want to install an Office product (e.g., Word, Excel, PowerPoint) on a new PC or Mac. A subscription to Microsoft 365 allows you to sign in to Office on up to 5 devices (computers, phones, and/or tablets) at once.[7]
- If you've already reached the maximum number of sign-ins, deactivate one of the logged-in devices at https://account.microsoft.com/services/microsoft365/install. Just click Sign out next to the device you want to log out of.
- Sign in to your Microsoft account. This is the email address and password associated with your Microsoft 365 subscription, which usually ends in Outlook.com, Live.com, or Hotmail.com. If you use Office through your work or school, you may need to use your work or school account to sign in.
- If you don't remember this address, open an Office app on the old computer (such as Word or Excel), go to File > Account, and find the email address under "Product Information" next to "Belongs to."
- Click . It's near the top-right corner of the page. This downloads the installer to your computer, although you may have to select the option to Save File to start the process.
- Click or . The option you see varies depending on the version you're installing.
- If you're using a work or school account, click Office 365 apps to start the installation.
- Run the Office installer. The installer downloaded to your default download location by default, which is usually the Downloads folder. Double-click the file to start the installation.
- If you're using Windows, the installer's name begins with "setup" and ends with .exe.
- If you're using a Mac, the installer's name begins with "Microsoft_Office" and ends with pkg.
- Follow the on-screen instructions to install Office. The steps are a little different depending on your operating system:
- Windows: Click Yes to grant the installer permission to run, and follow the on-screen instructions.
- macOS:
- If you see an error that says "Microsoft Office installer.pkg can't be opened because it is from an unidentified developer," wait about 10-15 seconds and then drag the installer to your desktop. Then, hold the Control key as you click the file to try again.
- Click Continue and follow the on-screen instructions.
- Open any Office app once installed. This could be Word, Excel, PowerPoint, or any other product. If you're using Windows, your Office apps are in the Start menu. If you have a Mac, Office apps are on the Launchpad.
- Activate Office. If you're using Windows, signing in and accepting the license agreement will activate all Office apps. If you're using a Mac, follow these steps:
- Click Get Started at the bottom of the "What's New" window.[8]
- Click Sign In and log in with your Microsoft (or work) account.
- If you don't see this option, click the File menu, select New from template, and then click Sign In.
- Click Start Using Word (or whichever app you opened) once the activation is complete.
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