| How to Move on from the Past in a Relationship Posted: 03 Feb 2022 08:00 AM PST Moving on from a past relationship can be raw and emotional, whether or not you were the one who ended things. But in the wake of all those emotions, letting go of the past can help you grow, get in touch with yourself, and even open your heart to new lasting love. We've put together a guide to help you move on from past love and heal. Here's how you can start to let go. [Edit]Acknowledge your emotions. - Give yourself time to process any feelings related to the past. Try to label your emotions as they come, either by journaling or simply saying how you feel out loud.[1] If you want to cry, scream, or shout, that's okay, too. You won't feel this way forever, but accepting your emotions without judgment will let you move on in a healthy way.[2]
- However you feel is valid and real.[3] The feelings of grief and rejection that can come with separating from a partner actually activate the same area in your brain as physical pain, but know that the pain is temporary.[4]
[Edit]Remember both the good and the bad. - Romanticizing past partners can make it hard to move on. Often, you might hold onto an imaginary future you envisioned with an ex rather than seeing the reality of the relationship. Think back on all the love and wonderful experiences you shared with your partner. At the same time, recognize your former partner's flaws and any problems, fights, and pet peeves from your relationship.[5]
- Comparing past relationships to present relationships makes it easier to be critical of potential new partners. By remembering the reasons why you and your ex broke up, you can open yourself up to new people and possibilities.[6]
[Edit]Make a commitment to forgive and let go. - Forgiveness makes it easier to move on from negative emotions. While it's normal to think back again and again on the past, at a certain point, it's healthier to commit to changing your thought patterns.[7] Acknowledge your partner's role in any past hurt, and acknowledge any hurt you might've done to them. Then, though it can be tough, make the choice to forgive your partner and forgive yourself.[8]
- Use forgiveness as a turning point to refocus on yourself and what you need in the future, rather than what you want to change in the past.[9]
- You don't have to reach out to your partner in order to forgive them. Forgiveness can be a personal process and mindset shift, too.
[Edit]Create space between yourself and your ex. - It's hard to let go when you see reminders of your past relationship. Try not to contact your ex, either in real life or on social media. You can unfollow them, block their number, and delete old pictures of the two of you. It might also help to box up any mementos of your relationship, like gifts and old photos.[10] If your ex reaches out to you, let them know you need time and space to heal and process.[11]
- Similarly, it's important to stay away from physical intimacy with an ex if you want to move on and form healthier stable relationships.[12]
[Edit]Reach out to friends and family. - Social support can help you through tough times. It's easy to feel lonely as you try to move on, but know that you're not alone. Try to connect with friends and family face-to-face and share how you're feeling with them.[13] Call up a friend you haven't talked to in a while.[14] You can also join a community organization or local club to make new friends and build connections.[15]
- If reaching out to people doesn't come naturally to you, that's okay. You can find a built-in, supportive community by joining a local or online support group.
[Edit]Prioritize your health and well-being. - Create new routines to take care of yourself and your body. As you let go of a past relationship, healthy routines can create stability, even when it feels like a major part of your life has changed.[16] Start by setting a time to sleep and wake up every day. Then, reinforce healthy habits by aiming for 30 minutes of exercise, eating a healthy diet, and keeping up good personal hygiene.[17]
- Treat yourself to a massage, a spa day, or even a night at home with tasty snacks and your favorite movie.
[Edit]Reconnect with your interests and independence. - As you move on from the past, you have a huge opportunity for growth. Maybe you've always wanted to try out Brazilian jiu-jitsu or take a cooking class. You might've dreamed about traveling to Rome or volunteering at an afterschool program. Use this time to re-invent how you think and feel about yourself and your capabilities.[18][19]
- Try making a list of everything you want to do. Aim to cross 1 item off that list every day.[20]
[Edit]Ask yourself what you've learned from the past. - Use this time to learn what you want and need from future relationships. Despite all the hurt, your past can still have a positive and meaningful impact on your future.[21] Is there anything you want to do differently moving forward? Sit down and write out a few goals or strategies for future relationships.[22] Here's a list of questions to help you reflect:[23]
- What role did you play in any past relationship conflicts?
- Do you see any trends in your past relationships or choice of partners?
- How do you react to stress and conflict in relationships?
- What traits do you want in a future partner? What traits do you want to avoid?
[Edit]Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. - Catch your inner critic and focus on positive, hopeful statements. Look out for thoughts that use absolutes like "never" and "always." Similarly, watch out for self-blaming statements that use words like "should've" or "must." As a good test, check if the way you're talking to yourself is how you'd talk to a friend or loved one.[24] When negative words come through your head, spin them into encouraging statements.[25]
- Rephrase a negative statement into a mantra like, "I deserve love, and I'm going to find someone incredible."
- Give yourself credit for trying, even if you aren't perfect (none of us are). For instance, "The relationship didn't work out, but I gave it my best shot."[26]
- If you make a mistake, change a self-blaming thought with language like, "I messed up a little, but that doesn't mean I'm a bad person or a bad partner."
[Edit]Be patient with new relationships. - Take your time to heal and ease into new relationships. It can be tempting to jump into a rebound relationship, but take time to process your emotions and connect with yourself before you start dating again. By focusing on what makes you happy and rediscovering parts of yourself that you might have lost in the past, you can form more authentic relationships moving forward.[27]
- There's no set amount of time to wait before starting a new relationship.
- Typically the longer you were together and the more involved you were in each others' lives (ex. living together, raising kids together), the longer you'll need before falling in love again.[28]
- You'll know you're ready to be a committed partner again when you know what you want from a relationship and know what you can give in a relationship.[29]
[Edit]Open up to the possibility of new love. - There's more than one person out there for you. Even though it may not feel like it now, you will find someone and you can fall in love again.[30] Your next partner might not be exactly who you expect or check every box. To keep an open mind, try to come up with the 3 traits that are most important to you in your future partner.[31]
- Your 3 traits can be about personality, appearance, or other characteristics. For instance, you might want a future partner who's dedicated to community service, athletic, and who shares your religion.
- Research shows you can still have a healthy, fulfilling relationship even if you haven't completely resolved feelings towards your former partner.
- In fact, getting into a new relationship after you've taken time to work on yourself can help you move on.[32]
[Edit]Seek out counseling if you need more support. - Everyone needs extra help from time to time. Talk to your primary care physician for a referral to a therapist or look for an online counseling service like Better Help or Talkspace.[33] If your feelings about the past start to get in the way of daily life, that could be a sign of depression or anxiety.[34]
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| How to Make a Paper Basket Posted: 03 Feb 2022 12:00 AM PST Paper baskets are useful around the house and make great gifts. They can be made using materials you already have and are a fun and easy craft for any age. Develop your basket-weaving skills and experiment with the shape, size, colors, and appearance of your baskets to add another level of creativity. [Edit]Simple Construction Paper Basket - Prepare strips of paper to weave your basket. Use three sheets of 8.5" x 11" construction paper. On the sheet of paper to become the base of your basket, draw a horizontal line from the top and another one from the bottom. These lines will help when laying out the base. Then cut the paper lengthwise into strips .5" wide.
- Choose one sheet of a neutral color of construction paper like brown, black, or white. This will be the base of your basket. The other two sheets can be any color of your choice. This will form the decorative sides of your basket.
- Weave the base of your basket. Lay out 8 strips of paper (the color you've chosen as the base) next to each other so that the lines on each strip are face up and form one continuous line. Starting at the top line, weave another strip of the same color through the strips you've laid out, over one strip and under the next. Center the strip horizontally with respect to the strips you laid out. Using another strip of the same color, weave it through the strips in the opposite way from the first one, so that this one will go underneath the strips that the first one you weaved went on top of. Then slide the strips together, making sure the edges line up.
- Repeat with a total of eight strips.
- The finished base should have a 4" x 4" woven square that fits just inside the lines you drew on each strip. In other words, you should have a square that has eight strips sticking evenly out 3.5" on each side.
- Fold up the strips sticking out the sides of the basket. Each side should come up to the same height.
- It can be helpful to put a 4" x 4" box or block of wood in the center of your basket and fold the strips up against this block. This will make the next steps easier.
- Weave a strip of colored paper between the now vertical strips of the base, folding it to fit around the corner of the basket.
- You will need to use approximately one and a half strips to make it all the way around the basket. You can simply tape or glue the two pieces together. Try to place the connection so that it comes on the inside of the basket and is hidden by a strip from the base. This will give your basket a clean, seamless look.
- Weave the strip all the way around the basket. When the two ends meet, tape or glue them together, hiding the tape in the same way.
- Repeat the above step with another strip of the same color. Make sure to alternate between going under and on top of strips, so that you create a checkerboard pattern with the strips from the base.
- Keep repeating until you reach the top.
- Finish and polish off your basket. Tape or glue the ends of the base strips to the top woven strip. Then tape or glue a slightly wider strip of the base color to the top of the basket on the inside, laying it on top of the vertical strips. Add a similar panel on the outside of the basket, securing it to the inside one as well as the outside of the basket.
- If you want to add a handle, simply tape or glue each end of a long strip of paper to opposite sides of the basket before you add the top panel.
- Done.
[Edit]Circular Newspaper Basket - Roll newspaper into tubes. First, cut a sheet of newspaper into quarters vertically - this does not have to be precise. Then place a wooden skewer at one corner of a sheet of paper. Place it at a slight angle so that the rolled tube you will end up with is longer than the sheet of paper itself. Then roll the paper around the dowel, making sure to keep it tight. Once you have finished rolling, put a drop of glue on the last corner to hold the roll together.
- You will need many tubes of paper, so repeat this process for each.
- In place of a wooden skewer, you can use a thin knitting needle, a 3mm dowel, or anything similarly long, narrow, and round.
- Use a circular piece of cardboard to form the base. This can be as large or small as you want your basket to be. Glue paper tubes to the cardboard so that they radiate away from the center in rays. Make sure to use an odd number of tubes for this.
- You will need to use more rays for larger bases. The closer together the rays are, the tighter your weave will be.
- Use a second piece of cardboard, identical to the first, to finish the base. Glue this piece of cardboard to the first so that the paper tubes are firmly pressed between the two pieces.
- Leave a heavy weight on top of the base while it dries to make sure that everything is nice and secure.
- Fold the rays up and begin weaving. Fold a new paper tube over one of the rays and glue the folded end to the working end. Then weave the tube in and out of the rays, over one and under the next. Make sure it sits snug as far down as possible - at first on the base, and later, on top of previously woven tubes.
- As you weave, the rolled tubes will flatten out. This will make your basket stronger.
- When you come to the end of one tube, attach it to the next one by sliding its end inside the next tube. This will essentially make one long tube that will form your whole basket.
- Continue weaving until you near the top of the rays or reach the desired height of your basket. When you're ready to stop weaving, fold the end of the tube you're weaving with over a ray and glue it to itself.
- Fold over the rays to finish the basket. Cut each ray about an inch past the top of the basket. Then:
- For each ray that stands on the outside (the last tube you wove past the ray went to the inside of the ray), fold the end over the basket and glue it to the inside of the basket. Use a clothespin to hold it in place while the glue dries.
- For each ray that stands on the inside (the last tube you wove went outside the ray), fold the end over the basket. Instead of gluing these to the outside, tuck the end inside the woven basket at the second row from the top, securing it in a way that makes it fit into the weave of the basket.
- Done.
[Edit]Things You'll Need - Construction paper or newspaper
- Tape or glue
- Scissors
- Cardboard for a base
- Narrow wooden dowel
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| How to Change Autofill Options on an iPhone Posted: 02 Feb 2022 04:00 PM PST Safari's AutoFill feature automatically fills in data like payment information and passwords into forms on the web. But what if the information saved in AutoFill is wrong or needs an update? This wikiHow article will show you how to edit saved AutoFill data, including passwords, credit cards, email addresses, and phone numbers, in your iPhone or iPad's Settings. [Edit]Editing Your AutoFill Contact Info - Open the Contacts app on your iPhone. Safari uses your personal contact card to automatically fill out your name, phone number, email address, physical address, and other information when you fill out forms. If your information needs an update, changing it in Contacts will also update the Safari AutoFill information.
- If you'd rather Safari not automatically fill in any personal information about you, go to Settings > Safari > AutoFill and tap the switch next to "Contact Info" to turn AutoFill off.
- Tap your name to open your contact card. This displays all of the information saved in your contact card.
- Tap . It's at the top-right corner.
- Make the changes you want to make. You can tap each field to make changes and add or remove information as needed.
- To close the keyboard after making a change, just tap anywhere else on the contact card.
- Tap to save your changes. It's at the top-right corner. The next time you fill out a form that requests contact information in Safari and tap AutoFill Contact, the updated information will automatically fill into the corresponding blanks.
[Edit]Editing Saved Cards and Payment Information - Open your iPhone's Settings . It's the gray gear icon on your home screen or in your App Library.
- Scroll down and tap . It is in the fifth section of the general settings menu.
- Tap . It is in the "General" section of the menu.
- Tap . You'll see this right below the "Credit Cards" slider.[1]
- You'll be asked to verify your identity with Touch ID or a biometric before you can continue.
- If you'd rather Safari not automatically fill in your credit card information, tap the switch next to "Credit Cards" to turn off AutoFill.
- Edit an existing card. If you want to change the name, card number, expiration date, or description of a card that's already in your AutoFill details, tap the card to select it, and then tap Edit at the top-right. You can then make any changes you need to make and tap Done to return.
- If you want to delete the card from your Safari AutoFill data, tap the card and select Delete Credit Card instead.
- Tap to add a new card. If you want to add a new credit or debit card to your AutoFill payment details, you can enter it here. You can have multiple cards saved for AutoFill.
- To use your camera to scan the card, tap Use Camera and follow the on-screen instructions.
- You can also enter the cardholder name, number, expiration date, and a description manually.
[Edit]Editing Saved Usernames and Passwords - Open your iPhone's Settings . It's the gray gear icon on your home screen or in your App Library. If the wrong password is automatically filled in when you try to sign in to certain apps, sites, or services, you can update the password in your Settings.
- Scroll down and tap . It's in the 5th group of settings—look for the gray-and-white key icon.
- Verify your identity. Your iPhone will prompt you to enter a passcode or use a biometric like Touch ID before it'll allow you to view your saved passwords.
- Tap the site or service you want to update. The list contains all of your saved passwords. Tapping a site will display the current username and password saved for that site.
- If you want to completely remove a saved username and password from your iPhone, swipe left on the site or service name instead, and then tap Delete.
- Tap . It's at the top-right corner.
- Update the username or password as needed. If the username is incorrect, tap User Name and make your changes. And if the password needs to be updated, tap Password to change it.
- This will not change your password on the website or service—just in your iPhone's list of passwords.
- Tap . It's at the top-right corner.
- Tap the back button to return to the password list. It's at the top-left corner.
[Edit]Warnings - Autofilling sensitive information can result in decreased or eliminated security around your passwords or credit cards.
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