| How to Be Romantic on Your First Date Posted: 12 Oct 2021 01:00 AM PDT First dates are a lot of things—fun, nerve-wracking, exciting—but most of all, they should be romantic! This is your chance to spark chemistry with the other person to see if you're a natural fit. A little romance definitely improves your chances of a second date so check out our tips for setting the mood. [Edit]Pick a romantic location. - Think of a special place your date would want to go. This might be somewhere very beautiful or historic, or it might just be somewhere important to your date. For instance, if they're into wine, a vineyard would be a romantic choice. If they're more outdoorsy, you could suggest a beautiful arboretum or rose garden. Try to choose a place that feels intimate and unique to them. This is way more romantic than dinner and a movie![1]
- If they're into the arts, you might suggest going to a museum or an art gallery.
- Try to avoid doing a coffee date at a cafe since it won't feel as natural.[2]
[Edit]Do an activity where you can be close. - Look for ways to be physically close and active to spark intimacy. This might mean taking a salsa class, going for a swim at the beach, or hitting the amusement park together.[3] Do activities that keep you active and talking with each other as opposed to sitting and watching something. This way, you'll have more opportunities to spark a meaningful connection.[4]
- Take a pass on sitting through a long concert or show since this doesn't give you a chance to interact much with your date.
[Edit]Prioritize conversation. - Focus on talking over entertaining your date. When you're on a first date, you're trying to get a sense of the person—what they're into, what their personality is like, whether or not they're funny. Stick with light topics like what bands they like, what their favorite food is, and where they'd love to travel to. Showing deep interest in the other person is definitely more romantic than tuning out to a movie, so make sure you listen closely to their responses.[5]
- Don't feel like you have to talk about heavy stuff. Save discussions about politics, religion, and relationships for later.
- Think of it this way, were you a fun way to kill some time, or did you watch the sunrise because you spent all night talking?
[Edit]Put your phone away. - Give your date your undivided attention. This may not seem like a romantic gesture, but it's a huge deal for most people. Think about how often you check your phone without even thinking about it. Make a point of turning off your phone so you don't look at it at all. Instead, give your date your full focus. They'll probably feel more of a connection this way.[6]
- Can't turn off your phone? Set your phone to silent mode and make a point of not checking it repeatedly.
[Edit]Flirt to spark a little chemistry. - Nothing says you're fun and interested in them like flirting! Say something cute and romantic like, "I am sorry as this can sound awkward, but I get very nervous around pretty girls." Whatever you say, be genuine! Here are a few more lines you can use:[7]
- "That suit looks amazing on you."
- "I think everyone here is jealous of me. I'm with the most handsome/beautiful person in the room."
- "You probably hear this a lot, but you have a gorgeous smile."
[Edit]Dedicate a song to them. - Request a band to play a song or do karaoke for your date. If you're in a bar or restaurant that's got live music or a DJ, pick a romantic tune that you think your date would like and dedicate it to them. For something a little more lighthearted, but just as romantic, offer to sing a romantic song if you're at a karaoke bar. Your date may be surprised, flattered, or amused, but above all, they'll probably be charmed at your effort.[8]
- Who knows? This could even become your song if it looks like the relationship might work out.
[Edit]Display open body language. - Turn your body toward your date and lean in. Keep your arms open and loose instead of crossing them, which can look defensive. You want your body language to make your date relaxed and comfortable.[9]
- A lot of people also find it easier to sit side by side instead of across from one another when they're talking. This seems more intimate since you're physically closer to each other.
[Edit]Show some physical affection. - A simple touch sends the signal that you're interested in them. You might rub their shoulder, hold hands, or just touch their arm. Little touches like these make a connection that can make you two feel more comfortable around each other.[10][11]
- Don't wait until the end of the date to do this. It can be awkward for both of you if there hasn't been any physical contact before one of you leans in for a goodnight kiss.
[Edit]Find a romantic spot for a first kiss. - Ask your date if you can kiss them, if you sense chemistry. If you're really hitting it off with the other person and they've initiated physical touches, they may be feeling romantic, too. Although you shouldn't feel pressured to kiss on the first date, it might just seem natural. Maybe you're both leaning in toward each other in front of a beautiful sunset or the other person pulls you closer as you go to say goodnight. If you're both comfortable with the idea of kissing, then great![12]
- Don't feel bad or force it if your date doesn't want to kiss. They may not feel a similar connection or they might just want to get to know you a little better first.
[Edit]Be yourself. - There's nothing romantic about pretending to be someone you're not. You don't want to trick the other person. Instead, be super open and honest about who you are.[13] Being your true, authentic self is romantic! Take a moment to remind yourself that the person wants to go out on a date with you so be yourself.[14]
- To make yourself feel more relaxed about the date, dress comfortably, act confident, and have a good time.
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| How to Know if Your Cat Is Afraid of Something Posted: 11 Oct 2021 05:00 PM PDT Cats can be afraid of many things, from loud noises and thunder to strangers and children. If you think your cat is afraid of something, look at its body language and behavior, as that will typically tell you.[1] Sometimes, fearful cats will also turn aggressive, as they don't know another way to deal with their fear. They may also run away or freeze. Once you notice the signs of fear, try to help your cat deal with it by avoiding triggers and encouraging good behavior. [Edit]Watching Your Cat's Body Language - Look for dilated eyes. When your cat is afraid, its pupils are likely to get large.[2] That means its eye will look mostly black as the pupil fills it. Your cat is trying to see everything it possibly can because it is afraid, and eye dilation helps it do that.[3]
- You've probably noticed the same reaction in humans. When you're watching a horror flick, your eyes "go wide"--dilate--at the scary parts!
- Dilated eyes can also be a sign that your cat is excited, so don't assume this means your cat is afraid. Instead, check the rest of your cat's body language to determine if the cat is afraid or excited. Additionally, it's helpful to consider the current environment.
- Check if your cat's ears are flattened. Typically, if your cat is a little afraid, or at least on alert, its ears will be turned to the side. However, if your cat is feeling very threatened or scared, it will flatten its ears out completely, often to the side.[4][5]
- This posture is different from aggression, where your cat turns its ears back like its ready to attack something.
- Note whether your cat is wrapping its tail around its body. If your cat is scared, it may try to tuck itself in around its own body.[6] That means it may wrap its tail around itself or tuck it under its body completely.[7]
- This action is likely self-comforting in part.
- Their tail may also be curled forward.[8]
- See if your cat is crouching low. If your cat is scared, it may take a defensive position with its body crouched low to the ground. The cat will seem tense and ready to move at any moment with its feet under it, not relaxed and laid out flat.[9][10]
- In this position, it may lower its head, too.
- If standing, your cat's back end will be lower to the ground than the front. Also, their head will be lowered toward the ground.[11]
- Your cat may also be laying on their belly or sitting.[12]
[Edit]Watching for Fear to Turn to Aggression - Notice if your cat's hair is bristling. If a cat is upset and afraid, it tries to make itself look bigger by fluffing out. That way, it can scare away whatever it's afraid of. You may notice its hair sticking out on end, for instance, with the whole body puffed up.[13][14]
- In addition, the cat's tail will likely puff up with the rest of its body.[15] In that case, it may stick straight up or out to make the cat look bigger. It may also swish back and forth.
- Watch for an arched back. An arched back is a sure sign your cat is feeling fearful and aggressive. The arch makes them appear bigger to whatever it is its facing in an attempt to scare it off. The arched back and bristling fur usually happen at the same time.[16]
- If you're not sure what an arched back looks like, think of a depiction of a scary Halloween cat with an arched back.
- Look for bared teeth and hissing. When your cat is getting aggressive, it may start showing its teeth. That's meant to tell you its feeling threatened and it may attack. When it opens its mouth to show its teeth, it may also make a hissing sound at you.[17][18]
- Hissing is warning sound that's saying "Back off!"
- Your cat's whiskers will also be held back against their face.[19]
- Be ready for swatting, biting, and scratching. When your cat's behavior turns aggressive, you could be hurt in the fray. Your cat may intentionally or unintentionally bite you or scratch you, as a way to show you it can defend itself against whatever is scaring it.[20]
- It may bite or scratch at other animals and things, too, such as a dog or the vacuum cleaner.
[Edit]Paying Attention to Your Cat's Behavior - Look for loss of bladder and bowel control. If your cat is truly frightened out of its wits, it may defecate or urinate where it is. You may see this happen when you carry your cat in a carrier, for instance, on the way to the veterinarian; your cat may use the bathroom simply because it's frightened.[21]
- Your cat may do this at home, too, particularly if its afraid of another cat, as it may not want to use the same litter box as the other cat.
- See if your cat seems frozen in place. While flight or fight are 2 of the normal responses to something your cat is scared of, "freeze" is another response. Think of a deer in the headlights; it's frozen in place because it's afraid. Sometimes, this happens to your cat, too, when it's afraid.[22]
- Your cat may become statue-like, frozen in a scared position.
- Notice if it runs away. Your cat is employing the "flight" part of the flight-or-fight response. When faced with a scary situation, your cat's main options are to fight the issue or to run away from it. You may notice it shows other signs of fear and then runs off, for instance.[23]
- If your cat disappears as soon as it hears the vacuum, you can be sure its afraid of it!
- Pay attention if your cat hides all the time. A cat who hides away under the bed or in closets is afraid of being out around its humans or of something in your house. That is not necessarily your fault, as some cats are just more fearful than others. Still, you should take note of this behavior so you can try to find ways to deal with it if you can.[24]
[Edit]Helping Your Cat - Leave a hiding cat where it is. If your cat is eating, drinking, and using the bathroom, let it stay in its hiding place for the moment, as long as it is otherwise healthy. Dragging a fearful cat out from its hiding place will only make matters worse. You can still encourage it to come out with a calm voice and treats, but you shouldn't yank it out of its hiding place. [25]
- If possible, place its food, water, and litter box closer to its hiding place. That way, it won't have as far to go to get what it needs.
- Ignore an aggressively fearful cat. If the cat turns aggressive on you, your best bet is to act as if the cat isn't being aggressive. That is, the cat wants you to be afraid and retreat, so if you do, it's learned that aggressive behavior gets the result it wants. Instead, hold your ground, but don't try to approach the cat.[26]
- Also, don't try to pet or console the cat, as that could result in you being hurt.
- Avoid fear triggers when possible. Of course, you can't avoid everything that makes your cat afraid. Many cats are afraid of the vet, but your cat will likely still need to go. On the other hand, if you know your cat doesn't like children, give it a chance to hide when a child comes over. Avoiding these triggers will help your cat be less fearful.[27]
- Don't intentionally antagonize your cat. For instance, if you find out your cat doesn't like canned air, don't keep spraying the air at it!
- Teach your cat to not fear other triggers. With other triggers, try using food to help your cat understand there's nothing to be afraid. For instance, if your cat is afraid of the vacuum cleaner, show your cat the vacuum from across the room and then put it away. If your cat doesn't react aggressively, give it a treat and praise it for good behavior.[28]
- If your cat is aggressive, try repeating the process over time until your cat shows less aggression.
- Encourage a shy cat to come out with play. Sit in the room with the shy cat and bring a fishing-type toy.[29] Try to entice the cat out by moving the toy around, getting the cat's attention. It may want to come out and play. If it does, try not to make any sudden movements.[30]
- Over time, the cat will begin to associate the fun time with you and may work up to hanging out with you more.
- Introduce strangers slowly to shy cats. If your cat isn't fond of being out and about when friends come over, try working with a single person to help increase your cat's interest. Have the person sit still in a room. Encourage the cat to come into the room with a toy or treats and slowly move it toward the new person. If your cat gets upset, let it go back to the other room, though you can encourage it to come out again with treats or a toy.[31]
- Repeat these sessions, and over time, your cat may become used to having strangers around and even approach one.
- Try a pheromone spray or plug-in to help a cat that's always anxious. These products provide similar pheromones to natural ones your cat produces, and it may help soothe an anxiety-ridden cat. You simply spray the air or plug the product into the wall, and it will release pheromones for your cat.[32]
- You can find these online or at most pet stores.
- Take your cat to the veterinarian if it suddenly starts acting fearful. Sudden changes in cat behavior can indicate other issues, such as an underlying health issue. If you notice a dramatic change, it's always good to have your cat checked out to make sure nothing else is wrong.
- Make note of any other symptoms you notice, such as a change in eating or bathroom habits.
- Pheromones sprays and plug-ins can also help if you're trying to introduce 2 new cats to each other.
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| How to Post a Picture with Music on Facebook Posted: 11 Oct 2021 09:00 AM PDT Ever wanted to add a little something to your posts on Facebook? This wikiHow will teach you how to add music to either your story or news feed post on Facebook using your Android or iOS phone or tablet. You can't use your computer to create these posts nor can you listen to news feed posts with music. [Edit]Adding Music to a Story - Open Facebook. This app icon looks like a white lowercase "f" on a blue background. You'll find it on one of your Home screens, in the app drawer, or by searching.
- Tap the tile. It's at the top of your news feed featuring your profile picture.
- Tap . You'll see this tile with a music note on it at the top of your screen. You might have to drag the tiles with "Aa" to the right.
- Tap a song to select it. If you want to preview a song before selecting it, tap the play icon to the right. To show a song's lyrics, select a song with the "Lyrics" label.
- The song will start playing to show you want your story will look like.
- Drag the slider left or right to play a different section of the song. The popularly used segments of the song are marked with stars, and you can tap them to select that portion of the song.
- You can only use up to 15 seconds of a song.
- Tap to select the display options. "Aa" will display the lyrics (if there are any), the following icons are different format and layout options using the song's album cover and the artists' name.
- Tap the color wheel at the top of your screen to change the font color.
- Tap . It's in the top right corner of your screen.
- Edit your story. Use the icons on the right side of your screen and the drawer at the bottom of your screen to further edit your story. You can add stickers (with a location pin, a poll, or GIF), text, doodles, filters, and more.
- Use the drawer at the bottom of your screen to select a colored background or one of your photos in the gallery. Once you're done, tap the x to close the background selection.
- Tap . It's in the lower right corner of your screen and will share your story with your friends.[1]
[Edit]Adding Music to a Post - Open Facebook. This app icon looks like a white lowercase "f" on a blue background. You'll find it on one of your Home screens, in the app drawer, or by searching.
- Tap the "What's on your mind" text field. Doing this will open a "Create Post" window.
- Tap . You may have to scroll down the menu to find this next to an orange music note.
- Tap a song to select it. If you want to preview a song before selecting it, tap the play icon to the right.
- Create your post. A 30-second preview of the song will appear in your post, under whatever you want to write.
- You can't add a picture to the post since the music preview contains the picture of the song's album cover.
- Tap . The post with the music will be added to your news feed. If others want to listen to the song preview, they will need to tap the play icon in the lower right corner of the album cover.
- People using a computer will be prompted to use the Facebook app for Android, iPhone, or iPad to listen to the song.
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