| How to Wear Sock Boots Posted: 24 Apr 2019 01:00 AM PDT Sock boots are all the rage these days. They're comfortable, versatile and add a touch of high-fashion to any outfit. You can typically find sock boots in fabrics like suede, leather, neoprene, and, you guessed it: sock material. These trendy boots come in a variety of styles from chunky heeled to tall so chances are, there's a sock boot out there that's a perfect match to your personal style sense and wardrobe. EditChoosing Sock Boots - Go for a neutral color so you can wear them with anything. Sock boots come in an array of colors, but if you want to make sure that you get the most wear out of your boots, buy them in a classic black, brown or nude color. That way, you won't have to worry about your colorful outfits clashing with your equally colorful sock boots.[1]
- Choose sock boots in bright or unique colors to add an exciting accent to your outfit. Sometimes color is a good thing! If you wear a lot of neutral tones, you might end up getting a lot of wear out of a bold, colorful sock boot. A brightly hued sock boot would become the focal point of your outfit and act as a cool contrast to the more subtle shades of your clothing. Look for sock boots in jewel tones for a playful fall look and powdery pastels for summer outfits.[2]
- Red would be a great choice. It's a favorite on fashion runways and tends to pair well with both black and white.
- Choose a heel that you're comfortable walking in. Some people can rock a high heel no problem, while others do better in a lower heel. If you don't have a lot of experience walking in high heels, then opting for a lower heel (under 2 inches) will be your best bet.[3]
- If your heart is set on wearing sky-high heels then look for sock boots that have a bit of a "platform" on the forefoot area. This will allow you to have the silhouette of a higher heel while still being able to walk with confidence.[4]
- Avoid awkward stepping by always leading with the heel.
- Try refined fabrics for a classier look. Sock boots can be worn to dressier affairs, especially if you buy them in rich fabrics like velvet or suede. Pairing a velvet sock boot with a tulle skirt would be an unforgettable evening look. Just keep in mind that these types of sock boots will usually be pricier than those made from faux leather or neoprene.
- In order to clean your velvet or suede boots, brush with a soft-bristled shoe brush daily in the direction of the fibers.[5]
- Avoid wearing your velvet or suede sock boots in snowy or wet weather.
- Choose sock boots that fit comfortably around your calves. Unlike other types of mid-calf boots like cowboy boots and snow boots, sock boots are meant to be pulled on just like a sock. When you try on your sock boots at the store, make sure the opening of the boot fits snuggly around your calves.
- There shouldn't be any "slouching" around the calves unless that's the intended style. They should be tight and flush to your calves, just like a sock!
- Try an open-toed sock boot for a summery look. Sock boots can be worn year-round, even in the summer months. Opt for a peep-toe sock boot in a pastel or nude shade to wear with summer dresses, skirts and even shorts. These types of sock boots are especially flattering when worn under a maxi skirt.[6]
- Paint your nails with nail polish for a surprise pop of color that peeks out of your sock boot.
EditWearing Your Sock Boots with Casual Outfits - Balance out a bulky sweater or jacket with the slim look of a sock boot. Sock boots have the ability to give the illusion of thinner, longer legs, especially when you contrast the skin-tight sock boots with a bulky, over-sized sweater or coat. One way to pull this look off well is to wear your sock boots with a one-piece jumpsuit and a baggy jean jacket over top.[7]
- Wear a baggy midi skirt to up the "bulkiness" of your silhouette. This will add even more contrast to the slim and tight sock boots.
- Wear your sock boots with a sweater dress for a cozy look. The sleek, clean look of a sock boot can add a touch of class to an otherwise low-maintenance dress. The snug look of the sock boots add a "cozy" factor to your overall outfit and will offset the bagginess of the sweater dress drawing attention to the line of your legs.[8]
- Cinch your sweater dress with a belt to create a flared shape. This will provide more of a contrast to the slim sock boots.
- Wear sock boots made from sweater material for a fun, cozy look.
- Pair your sock boots with wide leg jeans. Due to their sock-like nature, sock boots lend themselves well to being worn under wide leg jeans as opposed to being worn over tighter, skinnier ones. A brightly colored sock boot worn under wide leg jeans and a blouse is a perfect, everyday outfit.[9]
- Sock boots also pair well with long skirts.
- Layer a colorful sock underneath your sock boot. Add an extra layer of color and texture by wearing a sock that's slightly higher than your sock boot. This is a great way to jazz up plain black or brown sock boots. It's a good idea to match the sock to another piece of your outfit like your skirt or shirt. [10]
- Go for a colorful sock. A black or white sock peeking out of your boot might look like you just forgot to pull down your socks!
EditWearing Your Sock Boots with Dressy Outfits - Match your sock boots to your outfit for a high-statement monochromatic look. This style was all the rage in the '60s. If you're wanting a more "vintage" look, pair your sock boots with a dress or jumpsuit that's identical (or close to identical) to the color of your sock boots. This look is super fun for a night out on the town with friends.[11]
- Try a midi-length tube dress to really get that 60's look down pat.
- Wear your sock boots with a mini skirt to show off your legs. Sock boots are known to accentuate the legs so if your goal is to up the sex factor and show off your sculpted physique then try a tight miniskirt with some equally tight sock boots. The cut of the boots will draw the eye right to your beautiful legs. This is a perfect look for the dance floor or a date night[12]
- For some extra sex appeal, throw a floor length coat overtop and let your legs peek out as you walk.
- Wear some lace or fishnet tights to bring even more attention to your legs.
- Wear your sock boots with a ballerina-style skirt. For a fun, flirty evening look, try pairing your sock boots with a pastel ballerina skirt made of tulle or crinoline. The soft, clean lines of a sock boot go perfectly with the delicate shape of a light and airy ballerina skirt. This look is perfect for a classy event, cocktail party or wedding[13]
- A sock boot made of velvet or soft fabric would pair well with this "barely there" skirt.
- Try wearing thigh-high sock boots for a bolder look. Sock boots come in lots of different heights, including thigh-length. Pair some black thigh-high sock boots with a leather skirt and a sleeveless turtleneck for a no-nonsense, sexy look. This style is perfect for a concert or a night out at the club.[14]
- Thigh-high sock boots also go great under a long, statement trench coat.
- Wear your sock boots at work. Sock boots can be appropriate for work, depending on how you wear them. Pairing a black sock boot under a neutral-toned wide-leg dress pant is a great way to add a little "fashion" to your work outfit while still looking professional and put together. The streamlined look of a sock boot is actually pretty ideal for an indoor office environment.[15]
- Go with a classic leather or suede sock boot for work as softer, flashier materials like suede and wool might come off as too casual or on the other side of the spectrum, too dressy.
- A sock boot with a pointed toe will make your legs look longer than a rounded or square toe.
- A block or chunky heel will be easier to walk in than a thinner stiletto or kitten heel.
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| How to Overcome the Freeze Response Posted: 23 Apr 2019 05:00 PM PDT The freeze response is a natural reaction to extremely frightening or traumatic situations. If you have PTSD or have experienced some sort of trauma in the past, any situation that reminds you of your trauma may trigger the freeze response. If you find yourself freezing, taking some deep breaths and paying attention to your physical sensations and surroundings can help. While you can't completely prevent the freeze response, there are steps you can take to make it a little less likely, such as practicing relaxation techniques while you are calm. Getting professional therapy can also be helpful. EditComing Out of the Freeze Response - Take a few deep breaths. If you are frozen or feel yourself going into a freeze, taking a few deep breaths can help you interrupt the freeze response and regain control.[1] As soon as you begin to feel frightened, try to force yourself to take 3 or 4 slow, deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.
- You may find it helpful to count to 5 with each breath. Inhale for 5 counts, hold the breath in your lungs for another 5 counts, then count to 5 again as you exhale.[2]
- Pay attention to the physical sensations you're experiencing. Being mindful of what you're feeling physically can help you break out of a freeze response.[3] If you find yourself frozen, try to focus on your senses. Notice the sensations that you feel both inside and outside of your body.
- For example, you might notice that you feel tension in your arms and shoulders or that you are holding your breath.
- Pay attention to things that you see, hear, feel, and smell in your environment, such as the sensation of the ground under your feet or the feeling of the air on your skin.
- Release your fight-or-flight energy by making deliberate movements. As you begin to break out of the freeze response, your fight-or-flight response may begin to kick in. If this happens, taking action or making a movement can help you feel calmer.[4]
- For example, you might calm yourself down by pacing, running in place, stomping your feet, or even punching a pillow.
EditPreventing the Freeze Response - Practice grounding techniques while you are calm. Grounding techniques help you connect with your senses so that you can stay present instead of freezing in moments of fear or stress. If you practice these techniques when you feel calm and safe, you can access those skills more easily when things get difficult.[5] Some examples of simple grounding exercise include:[6]
- Mentally reminding yourself of who and where you are and what you are about to do. For example, you might say to yourself, "I'm Samantha Jones. I'm 27 years old. I'm sitting on the couch in my living room. I'm about to get up and get a glass of water."
- Taking 10 slow breaths while focusing on the sensation of each inhalation and exhalation.
- Holding an object in your hands, such as a cold drink can or a set of car keys, and focusing on how it feels.
- Eating or drinking something, focusing on the tastes, smells, and other sensations you experience as you eat or drink.
- Try relaxation techniques to help yourself stay calm and present. Learning how to engage your mind and body's relaxation responses can also help you prepare for frightening and stressful moments.[7] Try to spend a few minutes every day practicing relaxation techniques, such as:
- Learn to recognize the signs that you are about to freeze. If you experience the freeze response frequently, learning to recognize the warning signs may help you stop a freeze before it begins. Think about the way you usually feel before and during a freeze response. Common freeze response sensations and symptoms include:[8]
- Feeling numb, cold, or frozen
- A sensation of physical heaviness or stiffness
- A feeling of being trapped inside yourself or in some part of your body
- Slow breathing or holding your breath
- Changes in your heart rate (e.g., your heart may feel slow or it might pound rapidly)
- Be patient with yourself. The freeze response is natural, and it's not entirely preventable. If you freeze in a frightening or stressful situation despite all your efforts to prepare for that possibility, don't blame yourself. Remind yourself that it is an involuntary reaction and not something that is within your control.[9]
- The freeze response is not a sign of weakness or cowardice. It's something that even highly trained emergency first responders and military personnel struggle with.[10]
EditGetting Professional Help - Find a therapist with experience treating issues related to trauma. The freeze response is often a symptom of PTSD and other trauma-related conditions.[11] If you struggle with freezing up in stressful or frightening situations, ask your doctor to recommend a therapist who has experience treating this issue. Some common therapeutic approaches include
- Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which can help you change the thought processes that may trigger a freeze response.[12]
- Sensorimotor psychotherapy, which focuses on dealing with the sensory and physical elements of trauma as well as the emotional and psychological ones.[13]
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a common treatment for complex PTSD and includes coping skills training as well as some CBT techniques.
- Work on dealing with any underlying past trauma. If you had a traumatic experience in the past, it may be contributing to your tendency to freeze. Work with a therapist to identify your past trauma so that you can work through it and understand how it might be contributing to the way you react to fear or stress in the present.[14]
- For example, if you grew up with an abusive relative, you may find yourself freezing if another person raises their voice or gets too close to you during an argument. A therapist can help you understand how the abuse in your past contributes to this reaction and help you figure out some healthy coping strategies.
- Look into support groups for people with similar experiences. If your freeze response is related to trauma that you've experienced, joining a support group can help you feel less alone. Other members of the group may also be able to offer advice and share strategies that have helped them deal with the freeze response. Ask your doctor or therapist to recommend a group, or do an online search for support groups in your area.
- Some support groups are peer-led, while others are moderated by a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or a licensed clinical social worker.
- You can also join online support groups or discussion boards, like the forums at Psych Central. Look for a group that is overseen by administrators or moderators who can monitor the group for abusive or inappropriate activity.
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| How to Forget Someone You Love Posted: 23 Apr 2019 09:00 AM PDT Breaking ties with someone is never easy, especially if you still love them. However, with time, patience, and a few healthy coping strategies, you can move on and find happiness again. Start by removing the person from your life, both by eliminating contact and taking down reminders. Then you can work on letting go of the hurt and moving on. EditRemoving the Person from Your Life - Break off contact completely. It's hard to get over someone or forget them if you're still talking to them or even if you're still just friends on social media. Unfriend the person on all your social media accounts. Let the person know you need a long break from them, even if you want to be friends in the future.[1]
- You could say, "Even though I would like to be on friendly terms in the future, I'm having a hard time right now. I need to step away from our friendship."
- If you must see the person, try to be friendly without moving into friendship. For instance, say hello if you pass them in the hall or make polite chitchat about logistics if you're sharing kids. However, leave it at that and don't try to go deeper.
- Give up the possibility that you could get the person back. Don't dwell on the thought that you might get back together. That only makes you hope and fantasize about the person. Instead, focus on letting go of the relationship, reminding yourself that it's over when you need to.[2]
- Tell yourself, "We broke up for a reason, and I deserve to move on with someone new."
- Write a letter to the person that you don't send. Get all your feelings out on paper. Tell your ex how they hurt you. Write down the good memories and the bad, and just use the time to get out some of your emotions. The letter is for you; there's no need to send it.[3]
- Delete the person's emails, texts, and voicemails. When you have text or messages from your ex, you're likely to go back and read them, dwelling in the past. Go through all of your accounts, and delete all messages, so you won't be tempted.[4]
- If you're afraid you might want the memories later, try saving them on an external hard drive and give it to a friend. Then you can't take it out at will to remember.
- Take down or delete all the photos you have of the person. Remove the photos from the walls and your picture albums. Delete any photos you have on your phone or computer, as well as any on your social media accounts. You don't need those reminders around.[5]
- Once again, if you can't quite let go, put them on an external hard drive along with any hard copies you have and ask a friend to hold them for a while.
- Have a ceremonial burning of any reminders you have around. Sometimes, you just need to cleanse your mind of the other person. One way to do that is to gather up items you have around that remind you of them. Put them in a metal trash can, and set them on fire. You can do this with old letters, photos, or clothing, for instance.[6]
- Just be sure to do this outside in a non-windy area. Have a bucket of water or fire extinguisher nearby just in case.
EditLetting Go of the Hurt - Remind yourself why it didn't work out. If you're having a hard time getting over someone, it's likely because you're remembering all the good times without the bad. Take time to remember why you broke up, so you can break through the fantasy.[7]
- Try writing about it. Journal about the painful memories you have with the intention of letting go of that hurt, too, so you can move on.
- You're relationship ended because something happened or it wasn't going well, and if you put that relationship on a pedestal of perfection, it's hard to get over it.
- Forgive the person to let go of your anger. One way to work on forgiving them is to remember the good parts of the person, too. Think about what made you like them in the first place, so you can think of them as a whole person who makes mistakes. It's only when you think of them as a fallible human being with both good and bad qualities that you can forgive them their mistakes.[8]
- Another way to work on forgiveness is to think about how you feel about what the person did to you. Think about how those emotions are affecting your life. For instance, if you feel angry and bitter, how is that coloring how you see the world?
- Of course, some "mistakes" are bigger than others. With serious issues like emotional and physical abuse, it's much harder to forgive the other person. Keep in mind, though, that forgiveness is mainly for your benefit; it doesn't absolve the other person for what they've done.
- Forgiveness is about letting go of the bitterness you have against the other person. It's hard to let go of your negative feelings towards the person if you're not willing to forgive them. You don't forget your pain, just that you stop harboring anger in your heart towards the person.[9]
- Reframe the breakup as "no-fault" instead of casting blame. You may blame yourself for the breakup, or you may feel the need to blame the other person. But, in the end, the fact is you just weren't compatible with the other person, and no one deserves the blame for that.[10]
- If you had a fairly amiable relationship, try to remember that you were both trying your best to make the relationship work, and work on letting go of the blaming cycle.
- Work on changing your response to the past rather than wishing it away. Sometimes, you may wish you could go back in time and change how things happened. It's a fairly natural response, but in the end, fruitless. All you can change is how you respond to the past. Accept that fact instead of constantly wishing you could take back something you said or did.[11]
- Try thinking about a particular moment that bugs you. You might be thinking, "I wish I could take back what I said." Instead, rephrase the statement: "I regret that I said that, but I've learned from my mistake. I'll do better in the future."
- See a therapist if you're struggling. You may feel like seeing a therapist carries a social stigma. However, keep in mind that millions of people just like you go to therapists, counselors, advisers, and other professionals for advice and guidance during difficult times, and you can, too. There's no reason to be afraid to get help.[12]
- Some of the people you may consider talking to are professional therapists, psychiatrists, school and occupational counselors, and, if desired, authoritative voices in your community like priests or rabbis. Just find a voice you trust who has some professional expertise.
- Ask your friends or family for recommendations if you're not sure who to talk to.
EditMoving On - Teach yourself to be independent again. During this time, remember that you are a whole person on your own. You don't need someone else to make you complete, so take this time to discover yourself again without the other person.[13]
- Make a list of all the things you can do now that you're not in a relationship. For instance, maybe you can spend more time with your friends and family, go on solo trips, move out of town, or stay up as late as you want. This list can you remind you of how fun it can be to be independent.[14]
- Remind yourself of your strength. When you break up with someone, you may be feeling vulnerable and like you don't have the power to get over the pain. But you are strong enough, you just need to give yourself some reminders. Take time to write down a few of your strengths and past triumphs to show yourself that you can and will get through this time.[15]
- For instance, you might write, "I have great tenacity. It only took me a year from when I started running to complete a marathon! And if I have tenacity, I can get through this, too."
- Make some new friends that aren't in the same circle. If you've been in a relationship for a while, you may have a lot of mutual friends with your ex. Work on making new friends who won't constantly bring up the person's name or want to do things with both of you, which will make it easier to move on.[16]
- You don't need to completely give up on your old friends, but having a new circle gives you a safe space to socialize. You can also rely on friends you don't have in common. Try rekindling an old friendship you may have let go by the wayside a bit.
- To make new friends, try going to community meetups, taking fun classes at your library or with your parks and recreation department, or even striking up a conversation with someone at a local coffee shop.
- Date again, when you're ready. Give yourself some time to grieve, but when you start feeling a little better, try dating someone new. You don't have to commit to a relationship. Just go on a few dates with a person you like, or even just a few first dates with a couple of different people.[17]
- Let yourself go as slow as you need when you start dating again. There's no rush. In fact, it might be a good idea to bring that up with anyone you're dating. You might say, "Hey, I should let you know that I just got out of a difficult relationship, so I'm just looking for something casual right now."
EditTaking Care of Yourself - Let your emotions out physically in laughter and tears. Sometimes, the pain is just going to hit you again, and you may feel like you need to cry. That's fine! Take some time to cry. But, don't forget to laugh, too. Watch some silly videos on the internet, check out some cute memes, or put in your favorite comedy. Laughter is good for the soul, and it can make you feel as good or better than a good cry.[18]
- Go out with friends and have a good laugh together!
- Eat healthy food every day. When you're grieving, you may not want to eat at all, or you may want to just eat junk food. However, that can just make you feel worse, when you crash from a sugar high, for instance. Make sure you're getting in some fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins at the very least.[19]
- Of course, you can still have that piece of chocolate cake or a bag of chips, especially in the first day or so. Just try not to only eat chips and cake. Opt for some healthy foods, too.
- Get some exercise, especially if it's outside. Take a hike in the woods or go for a walk with a friend. Kayak across a nearby lake or go for a swim in your favorite pool. Play a game of tennis, run in a park, or just hit the gym. Yoga is also a great option. Whatever you do will help get you out of your head and make you feel better.[20]
- Aim for at least 30 minutes of exercise most days of the week.
- Exercise is great for the brain because it releases feel-good chemicals in your body. If you're outside, you'll also get the benefit of vitamin D! Plus, it's great for your body and gets you out of the house.
- Leave plenty of time for sleep. Sleep is your body's way of healing, and that's true for emotional pain, too. If you're having trouble sleeping, make sure to leave extra time to get to sleep, and work on getting at least 8 hours each night.[21]
- Try getting into a nighttime routine. Shut off your electronics at least an hour before you want to go to bed, so your brain starts winding down. Have some warm milk or herbal tea, or take a warm bath to soothe your mind.
- You may have the opposite problem, too, where you want to sleep all the time. While getting some extra sleep isn't a bad idea (9-10 hours a night), try not to overdo it. Force yourself to get up and get out in the world.
- Fall back on your friends and family for support. The people who love you--your family members, personal mentors, and close friends--want to see you happy. Don't be afraid to ask these people for a little extra love. Talk to an old friend, a parent, or a sibling to help you work through your stress and emotions. Your ex was not the only person that loved you; use this time to remember that and spend time with those that matter.
- Even if you find that the advice you receive from your close confidants isn't perfect, the sense of comradeship can still make you feel better.
- Get back into a regular schedule. A regular schedule helps you stay in a routine, which helps you feel more normal. Try to get up and go to bed at the same time each day, eat your meals at the same time, and so on.[22]
- However, it's okay to go easy on yourself. You are going through a hard time, and it's okay to take breaks when you need them. Just try to keep up as much as you can.
- Pamper yourself a little. Take a hot bubble bath or get a massage. Now is the perfect time for a little pampering. Go to a movie you've wanted to see, take a little shopping spree, or even get out of town for a few days. Just do something that makes you feel good.[23]
- You can even do something as simple as getting cup of coffee from your favorite coffee shop and curling up with a good book.
- Try a new hobby to break out of your old habits. Work on learning a new language or take a fun cooking class. Pick up books at your library to learn a hobby you've always wanted to try or just watch some videos online. You could even take a class at a local community college in a subject that interests you.[24]
- Striking out on your own with a new pastime gives you a sense of independence and freedom, plus it can be invigorating, sparking creativity.
- If a friend asks about the person, you can politely say,"We broke up. I'm sorry, but I don't want to talk about it." They'll hopefully understand and drop the subject.
- Try to concentrate on other activities instead of thinking about your loved ones.
- Don't turn to negative behaviors, such as drinking, smoking, taking drugs, gambling, practicing self-harm, or even just becoming work-obsessed. Ultimately, these do more harm than good.[25]
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